Age Is But A Number

"Age is but a number" - Ladies, ever heard of this phrase articulated to you before? Don't know about you out there, but I sure get this alot. Maybe it's my youthful appearance that I seem to attract younger men.

Just the other day, one of my girl friends who doesn't quite know of my social circle, happened to know a mutual guy friend of mine. She saw our picture taken together on a casual outing and said, "OMG, do you know that he's only 25?" I was laughing, and shot back, "Well he's not the youngest, I've got one who's 24 yrs of age who has a crush on me!" (Of whom I've been constantly asking him to go look for someone his own size.)

Yes, this is a compliment. But it will be difficult for me to pursue a relationship with a younger guy.

So far, the dating scene has been quite challenging for me. If I am allowed to classify the groups of men who are interested in me, here's the list:
a. Players
b. Commitment-Phobes (Generally the career-minded or the money-chasing ones)
c. Younger men (falling within the range of 1 to 5 yrs younger)
d. Nerds/dweebs (nice simple guys who are far from what I'm looking for in a guy)

OK, back to younger men... I've dated enough of younger men to say that I will not consider them as a potential boyfriend or a husband-to-be. Not unless they are able to prove that they possess the following traits:
a. Maturity
b. Stability
c. Intelligence
d. Initiation

Please note that the list mentioned above was derived after quite a few headaches with them. Just to mention two instances:

Guy A (3 yrs younger) - Ended in 5 mths:
- Possess some level of maturity but lacks the stability.
- Lives all the way in the WEST while I in the EAST. We hang out mostly at his place, but going back home was always a financial killer. Staying past midnight makes things even worse. He doesn't even have the initiative to pass me some cash for the road. :(
- Just starting out on his career... so finances quite unstable. Most dates, I end up paying.
- Intelligence - Gives bad advice, bad suggestions, or tell me things I'd already know. Constantly asking me what I mean by certain phrases or words... (Nuff said)

Guy B (2 yrs younger) - Ended in 3 mths:
- Articulate and stable but very insecure.
- Always saying this to me,"Tell me you love me" or asking me why that particular day I didn't say that "I miss him".
- Immature: Picks any topic to argue. But the point is, his arguments never made any sense to me and his thoughts were incongruent. So more often than not, our arguments were never about the "argument topic" itself.

OK maybe I haven't met a younger guy who seems to complement me in all areas.

But for now, I'm contented to only date someone decent, complements me and preferably older please.

~ Lara ~