I use to think that friends aren't that important. I learnt my independence from friends at a tender age of 8 where I was terribly osctricised due to a variety of reasons. Perhaps I was an ugly duckling and over-weight. I never quite fit in to any group. And also perhaps, I was too matured for my own good. I didn't understand the whole meaning behind "Eh, let's not friend so-and-so! If you want to friend her, you're not our friend." I'm like Huh? So childish one ah... So yeah, wasn't quite able to be on the same page with most people my age. I remembered that i use to come home crying to mum thinking that there's something sorely wrong with me, of why nobody loves me... I remembered mum just hugged me and told me what's most impt is that God loves me and my family loves me. The rest, nevermind... Oh well time passed i toughened up... to what i am today.
I would say that i'm pretty strong in my own right. I use to even think that even if i'm the only one in this world and i don't have any friends, i'll still be able to survive. And to certain extent, some guys lament that i'm too much like a guy, my strength and independence is overbearing for them to handle. So ok, i learn and change to someone a lil softer. To start to let guys lead in terms of a relationship, to stop wearing the pants etc. I guess i've caved in too much that with the recent break-up, i experienced quite a fair bit of the 'pain'.
Back to my initial point, "Friends". This post celebrates the beauty of "Friendship". That i'm glad that i've got friends supporting me and are constantly behind my back to make sure that i'm ok. Although the person that i really wish shd be in the picture but is not, i'll leave that out for the time being... i really shouldn't be too dependent on that person.
Bottomline, Friends are important no matter what and they are my true gems. I feel totally blessed that they are my Friends for life!
Ps. Feeling much better already. Starting to be a lil more cheery... Thks to you guys!
~ Lara ~
Tuesday 30 October 2007
Lesson #63 in Social Networking Skills
Answer a question with a question. This is an excellent way of not revealing anything private about oneself and yet remaining an accomplished conversationalist.
"So, when are you getting married?"
(usually asked by the happily just-engaged, the just-marrieds and back from honeymoons, and the ones in their first year of blissful marriage)
You: Smile. "So, when are you having kids?"
"So, when are you having kids?"
(usually asked by the happily just-knocked ups, the proud fathers-to-bes, and the ones who had their bawling baby less than a year ago)
You: Smile. "So, are you still having sex?"
~SeamonkeY~
"So, when are you getting married?"
(usually asked by the happily just-engaged, the just-marrieds and back from honeymoons, and the ones in their first year of blissful marriage)
You: Smile. "So, when are you having kids?"
"So, when are you having kids?"
(usually asked by the happily just-knocked ups, the proud fathers-to-bes, and the ones who had their bawling baby less than a year ago)
You: Smile. "So, are you still having sex?"
~SeamonkeY~
Sunday 28 October 2007
Love + Technology don't mix...
We all relish at the advent of technologies and the embrace of it to enhance our lives in work, or play. With technology, communication becomes much simpler. Just to mention a few, IM (MSN, Yahoo, Skype etc), IP telephony, emails, phone, texting, or even with social networking sites like Facebook, Twitter, Friendster etc.
As we ride on the superhighway of technology and the sophisticated communication methods, yes, they make us all the more efficient. So what happens if we're speaking in the context of LOVE. I suppose they do help in communication when it comes to keeping the 'flame alive' when the couple is in a long distance relationship. But i find it sorely cold when we're talking about the modern day context of courtship and love (within the same geographical location).
We've embraced technology so much that we displace the traditional means of listening to his/her voice, going on dates/spending time with each other and perhaps even writing love letters/cards seem stoneage. The result: Absolute coldness which is totally impersonal.
My observations:
+ Men would rather IM than pick up the phone to talk to the girl that they are pursuing or currently seeing.
+ Men would rather text than talk on the phone.
+ Use IM to confront emotional issues rather than talk Face to face.
+ And recently, communicate a break up via text. ("Wuss!" - As Sea Monkey aptly labels him.)
Are the modern men of today really that non-confrontational? Why do they have to hide behind technology to speak their mind and not face issues like a MAN?
I guess what i'm saying here is, technology is good... and using technology to some extent in a relationship is still acceptable. But understanding the essence of the word "Balance" is key. That said in any given healthy relationship, there should be good dose of communication between the couple either via phone, and time spent together.
Then again... i'm just ranting, and perhaps the guys i've been out with are pure jerks. So then where have all the good men gone?
~ Lara ~
As we ride on the superhighway of technology and the sophisticated communication methods, yes, they make us all the more efficient. So what happens if we're speaking in the context of LOVE. I suppose they do help in communication when it comes to keeping the 'flame alive' when the couple is in a long distance relationship. But i find it sorely cold when we're talking about the modern day context of courtship and love (within the same geographical location).
We've embraced technology so much that we displace the traditional means of listening to his/her voice, going on dates/spending time with each other and perhaps even writing love letters/cards seem stoneage. The result: Absolute coldness which is totally impersonal.
My observations:
+ Men would rather IM than pick up the phone to talk to the girl that they are pursuing or currently seeing.
+ Men would rather text than talk on the phone.
+ Use IM to confront emotional issues rather than talk Face to face.
+ And recently, communicate a break up via text. ("Wuss!" - As Sea Monkey aptly labels him.)
Are the modern men of today really that non-confrontational? Why do they have to hide behind technology to speak their mind and not face issues like a MAN?
I guess what i'm saying here is, technology is good... and using technology to some extent in a relationship is still acceptable. But understanding the essence of the word "Balance" is key. That said in any given healthy relationship, there should be good dose of communication between the couple either via phone, and time spent together.
Then again... i'm just ranting, and perhaps the guys i've been out with are pure jerks. So then where have all the good men gone?
~ Lara ~
Thursday 25 October 2007
Still on criagslist...
After another hour of reading "Best of" on craigslist, I realised I'm as crazy as them for reading as they are writing to (their):
1. Cats (girlfriends'/neighbours'/strangers')
2. Roaches in the house
3. Fridge in the office
4. Some guy on the subway
5. Some girl on the subway
6. Interns
7. Pidgeons who eat up crap on the sidewalk
8. Boobs
9. Annoymous neighbours who leaves annoymous post-it notes on doors
10. Stalkers
11. Mudders-in-law
12. Potential folks who may marry their ex-wives
13. More cats (cat writers are just funnier than dog writers)
14. New York/LA/Philly
15. The President (theirs, not ours)
16. Ipods
17. Some chick who worships the devil http://www.craigslist.org/about/best/lou/106752674.html (this has to be one of the best, the bestest excuses I've heard for dumping a guy)
18. Vietnamese waxer
19. People who would like to adopt a one-fin, special needs stuffed penguin
20. Angelina Jolie
You're my inspiration.
~SeamonkeY~
1. Cats (girlfriends'/neighbours'/strangers')
2. Roaches in the house
3. Fridge in the office
4. Some guy on the subway
5. Some girl on the subway
6. Interns
7. Pidgeons who eat up crap on the sidewalk
8. Boobs
9. Annoymous neighbours who leaves annoymous post-it notes on doors
10. Stalkers
11. Mudders-in-law
12. Potential folks who may marry their ex-wives
13. More cats (cat writers are just funnier than dog writers)
14. New York/LA/Philly
15. The President (theirs, not ours)
16. Ipods
17. Some chick who worships the devil http://www.craigslist.org/about/best/lou/106752674.html (this has to be one of the best, the bestest excuses I've heard for dumping a guy)
18. Vietnamese waxer
19. People who would like to adopt a one-fin, special needs stuffed penguin
20. Angelina Jolie
You're my inspiration.
~SeamonkeY~
craigslist
I. Am. Addicted. To. It.
As a non-participant of craigslist (I neither post nor answer to any services or listings - its is 40,000 miles not within my range), I still get a kick everytime I check out its "Best of" http://www.craigslist.org/about/best/all/ list. These folks are talented (and twisted) without knowing it. Its my current favourite skiving site at work now.
Take that, Facebook.
Check out this posting on craigslist:
i love cat puke
Date: 2007-04-14, 9:48PM CDT
After an 11-hour shift at work today, i just want to go home and relax. My cats wait for me by the door and yell for food. I crack open a can of 9Lives and split it 50/50 in bowls for them.
Cat #1 is a hog and finishes his half first.
*one minute passes*
Like a nuclear reactor meltdown, cat #1 pukes all of his half back into his bowl, licks his chops and saunters away. Mission accomplished, everything is fine.
*one more minute passes*
Cat #2 finishes his half, repositions himself in front of Cat #1's bowl, and eats all of Cat #1's regurgitation as well. Chops are licked.
*one more minute passes*
Cat #2 volcanoes half of his stomach back into the same bowl. Cat #1, probably wondering now why he is still hungry, goes and eats Cat #2's fresh spew (which contained Cat #1's original blowout). It is somewhat surreal, as there is no left over cat puke, and the cats act as if nothing happened. In one way or another, dinner has been served.
Brilliant.
~SeamonkeY~
As a non-participant of craigslist (I neither post nor answer to any services or listings - its is 40,000 miles not within my range), I still get a kick everytime I check out its "Best of" http://www.craigslist.org/about/best/all/ list. These folks are talented (and twisted) without knowing it. Its my current favourite skiving site at work now.
Take that, Facebook.
Check out this posting on craigslist:
i love cat puke
Date: 2007-04-14, 9:48PM CDT
After an 11-hour shift at work today, i just want to go home and relax. My cats wait for me by the door and yell for food. I crack open a can of 9Lives and split it 50/50 in bowls for them.
Cat #1 is a hog and finishes his half first.
*one minute passes*
Like a nuclear reactor meltdown, cat #1 pukes all of his half back into his bowl, licks his chops and saunters away. Mission accomplished, everything is fine.
*one more minute passes*
Cat #2 finishes his half, repositions himself in front of Cat #1's bowl, and eats all of Cat #1's regurgitation as well. Chops are licked.
*one more minute passes*
Cat #2 volcanoes half of his stomach back into the same bowl. Cat #1, probably wondering now why he is still hungry, goes and eats Cat #2's fresh spew (which contained Cat #1's original blowout). It is somewhat surreal, as there is no left over cat puke, and the cats act as if nothing happened. In one way or another, dinner has been served.
Brilliant.
~SeamonkeY~
Tuesday 23 October 2007
Thy value worth measured in ?
In modern language, worth is measured by commercial organisation like Forbes by a person's asset - fixed and liquid.
Kwek Leng Beng the property tycoon, valued at USD 3.6billion worth of assets. His value is governed by the hectares he owned and the huge sum of directors' fees.
Hong Kong Li Ka Shing the all powerful figure of the SAR is valued at USD 18billion a year, a far cry from Kwek's 3.6billion.
We move even further and we see Bill Gates, the drop out genious is whooping a handsome worth of more than 100 billion!! The website didnt even point a figure, just too huge I think.
Then Forbes did the 100 celebrity - ranking the most powerful and best paid celebrities. Fame kicks in and occupy a factor for measurement.
Its fame, glory, and money that drives the measure of a man's worth on earth.
Then I start to think what about the worth of the day to day man who takes the subways, eat a plate of $ 2.50 (if you still can find this price) Char Kway Teow, pays 70cents to read Straits Times, earning a sum enough to pay off the HDB loan, Insurance plans, one trip a year to Phuket or Bali (max), shop at Series not Zara, flags that occassional taxis when it rains, scrimp and save when Marriage is on the cards, in great euphoria when they receive a 3 months bonus which quickly disipates into the plans and loans.
Thy value worth measured in ?
Cross over to the way God' measure of a human's worth. Our time on earth is temporary and our real worth is governed by how much we desire God, where we will be when we leave this earth. Our real worth is achieved when we sit beside God in our after-life. Our worth is a summation of the way we hold ourselves, our behaviours, our heart, our thinking. Our worth is measured by our works and our desire to serve and obey God.
A stark contrast from Forbes measurement.
I wonder if Forbes adopt the testament's way of measurement, who's in? or is everybody's out?
Its unbelievable but I have the "6th Sense version" of measuring thy worth.
Worth is a summation of how a man treats his friends/family, his love & sacrifice for his family, his upright-ness in thoughts, his ability to garner respect from people around him, his ability to share his love and success, his ability to spread cheers and laughter and add to his own life and the life of others, his ability to create an impression through his virtues.
That, is a MAN's worth.
In essence, at deathbed, we ask not how much assets have been declared on the will, but how many people have you loved truly madly deeply in this life time.
6th Sense (* in a very inspired mode to write this today)
Kwek Leng Beng the property tycoon, valued at USD 3.6billion worth of assets. His value is governed by the hectares he owned and the huge sum of directors' fees.
Hong Kong Li Ka Shing the all powerful figure of the SAR is valued at USD 18billion a year, a far cry from Kwek's 3.6billion.
We move even further and we see Bill Gates, the drop out genious is whooping a handsome worth of more than 100 billion!! The website didnt even point a figure, just too huge I think.
Then Forbes did the 100 celebrity - ranking the most powerful and best paid celebrities. Fame kicks in and occupy a factor for measurement.
Its fame, glory, and money that drives the measure of a man's worth on earth.
Then I start to think what about the worth of the day to day man who takes the subways, eat a plate of $ 2.50 (if you still can find this price) Char Kway Teow, pays 70cents to read Straits Times, earning a sum enough to pay off the HDB loan, Insurance plans, one trip a year to Phuket or Bali (max), shop at Series not Zara, flags that occassional taxis when it rains, scrimp and save when Marriage is on the cards, in great euphoria when they receive a 3 months bonus which quickly disipates into the plans and loans.
Thy value worth measured in ?
Cross over to the way God' measure of a human's worth. Our time on earth is temporary and our real worth is governed by how much we desire God, where we will be when we leave this earth. Our real worth is achieved when we sit beside God in our after-life. Our worth is a summation of the way we hold ourselves, our behaviours, our heart, our thinking. Our worth is measured by our works and our desire to serve and obey God.
A stark contrast from Forbes measurement.
I wonder if Forbes adopt the testament's way of measurement, who's in? or is everybody's out?
Its unbelievable but I have the "6th Sense version" of measuring thy worth.
Worth is a summation of how a man treats his friends/family, his love & sacrifice for his family, his upright-ness in thoughts, his ability to garner respect from people around him, his ability to share his love and success, his ability to spread cheers and laughter and add to his own life and the life of others, his ability to create an impression through his virtues.
That, is a MAN's worth.
In essence, at deathbed, we ask not how much assets have been declared on the will, but how many people have you loved truly madly deeply in this life time.
6th Sense (* in a very inspired mode to write this today)
Wednesday 17 October 2007
Active Aging
Something interesting I read on today's copy of Mind Your Body.
One of the features today was "Sex can still be good in the golden years". It essentially presented some older folks who are still getting it on and having plenty of fun with it and how everyone can get on the game plan.
One of the interviewees was a Mdm C (with her full name and occupation declared in the article) who had designated Mondays as their day, said "We wake up late, go for a slow-paced breakfast, have lunch, and then we have out tender moments in the afternoon when we take our naps." For the less initiated, please read in between the lines hor.
Kudos to her for sharing this and shame on the rest of us who are usually hush-hush on our own sex lives, let alone declaring it on the national papers. Incidentally, Mdm C also has 2 grown-up children, aged 25 and 27. As I read the article, I wonder if her kids are thinking to themselves that Mondays are now really bad days for genging MC.
~SeamonkeY~
One of the features today was "Sex can still be good in the golden years". It essentially presented some older folks who are still getting it on and having plenty of fun with it and how everyone can get on the game plan.
One of the interviewees was a Mdm C (with her full name and occupation declared in the article) who had designated Mondays as their day, said "We wake up late, go for a slow-paced breakfast, have lunch, and then we have out tender moments in the afternoon when we take our naps." For the less initiated, please read in between the lines hor.
Kudos to her for sharing this and shame on the rest of us who are usually hush-hush on our own sex lives, let alone declaring it on the national papers. Incidentally, Mdm C also has 2 grown-up children, aged 25 and 27. As I read the article, I wonder if her kids are thinking to themselves that Mondays are now really bad days for genging MC.
~SeamonkeY~
Tuesday 16 October 2007
kboy and jgal
Kenneth Cole and I attended kboy and jgal’s wedding and it was exactly what I needed. Who knows weddings can be a pick-me-up…especially one that takes place over two days?
We have been trying to plan ours but its been most often a one-step forward, two-steps back scenario. More often than not, I feel like just taking off with KC and forget about all this preparation rubbish.
Of course it helped that one of the wedding events was a champagne brunch which meant that we could kick back and get completely smashed. But seeing that big smile on kboy’s face, he looked really, really, genuinely happy to be married to jgal – that was the pick-me-up I needed.
To their happiness.
~SeamonkeY~
We have been trying to plan ours but its been most often a one-step forward, two-steps back scenario. More often than not, I feel like just taking off with KC and forget about all this preparation rubbish.
Of course it helped that one of the wedding events was a champagne brunch which meant that we could kick back and get completely smashed. But seeing that big smile on kboy’s face, he looked really, really, genuinely happy to be married to jgal – that was the pick-me-up I needed.
To their happiness.
~SeamonkeY~
Wednesday 10 October 2007
Public Housing, the Urban Myth
1. Its high time to raise the 8K household income ceiling for buyers of new HDB flats. Unrealistic at this age and time, me and Kenneth Cole tried ways to get around it but its impossible unless you would like to spend your honeymoon in the slammers like Mr. AMK Curry Puff (on that note, who were you trying to kid?? 5,000 puffs a day and only declaring $18,000 in annual income a year. Come on, IRAS can do the math).. and this leads to rant #2
2. As an alternative, we have the Executive Condos which any household with a less than 10K income is eligible for. Sounds good on paper. Private housing facilities at public housing prices (or rather at a 30% discount off regular prices) and comes with a grant too. Trouble is, with the property boom, an EC just costs a bit less than a private condo with 999-year or freehold lease in the same suburb areas. So that's out too...
3. ...so the only option for us is resale flats. I am so going to get smack for ranting about resale flats after just one day of house hunting. What can I say but we are a herd syndrome lot (just like the Oscars voters). "En bloc millionaires, booming private property prices, hey let's raise our valuation till sky high! Someone will buy our flat since so many can't go for new flats due to points #1." And I'm not even talking about the supposedly 'hot' areas like TPY or AMK. These are northerners trying to pull a fast one with a 30K - 50K valuation tags. I too, can do the math. For that kind of price, at least come with tasteful fittings. I dun pay for bad taste.
http://www.hdb.gov.sg/fi10/fi10296p.nsf/PressReleases/013D33A80BFF99244825731A0026A9E2?OpenDocument Obviously no one reads press releases anymore.
~SeamonkeY~
2. As an alternative, we have the Executive Condos which any household with a less than 10K income is eligible for. Sounds good on paper. Private housing facilities at public housing prices (or rather at a 30% discount off regular prices) and comes with a grant too. Trouble is, with the property boom, an EC just costs a bit less than a private condo with 999-year or freehold lease in the same suburb areas. So that's out too...
3. ...so the only option for us is resale flats. I am so going to get smack for ranting about resale flats after just one day of house hunting. What can I say but we are a herd syndrome lot (just like the Oscars voters). "En bloc millionaires, booming private property prices, hey let's raise our valuation till sky high! Someone will buy our flat since so many can't go for new flats due to points #1." And I'm not even talking about the supposedly 'hot' areas like TPY or AMK. These are northerners trying to pull a fast one with a 30K - 50K valuation tags. I too, can do the math. For that kind of price, at least come with tasteful fittings. I dun pay for bad taste.
http://www.hdb.gov.sg/fi10/fi10296p.nsf/PressReleases/013D33A80BFF99244825731A0026A9E2?OpenDocument Obviously no one reads press releases anymore.
~SeamonkeY~
Tuesday 9 October 2007
Got Match.
It's been 3 mths and i'm finally confirmed at my new job! It's been very challenging i must say but hey, it's only through the challenges that you get to learn and grow.
So what have i been up to these past 3 mths? Well pretty much work and then it went on to work and dating. Being in the tech industry, i'm pretty much open to anything tech-related. And well, yeah, that includes looking for Love online as well. Don't get me wrong, i said i am open to looking for love online but i am not actively searching.
That said, i got really curious about a certain dating site one day, "match.com" and decided to go try it out to see if this site actually works. I thought it would be fun since i was Single then and was into researching on social networking sites.
"OH, What the heck!" I thought to myself and typed my profile in and uploaded my pic... then it came to the part where i was prompted to sign up for a package. OK fine, less than S$30 per month (as opposed ot S$1K or more for the other prof dating agencies) and i thought it would be quite a neat investment if i'm blessed to find someone through match.
Cut the long story short, i've only met 2 from match.com.
Profile of M1
Industry: Financial Services
Age: Abt 9 yrs older than me
Height: Very tall
Looks: Could be better
Spoken: English with a hokkien beng accent
Body type: Avg
Smoker: Yes; about close to a pack a day
Nicknamed: "The Yelper"
My takeaway:
- Very weird. Told me he likes me after the 2nd date. And expects me to report my every move (GOSH!). Speaks very LOUD, quite embarrassing...
- Can't take the hint when i started to withdraw. Even 'scolded' me via sms that I should worry about myself than him.
- He actually 'broke up' with me when nothing's even started so that he can go see another girl he just met on the plane! OH GAWD!! Loser...
Profile of M2
Industry: Aviation (Commercial)
Age: Abt 2 yrs older than me
Height: Just right
Looks: Pretty good; Boyish
Spoken: English with malay accent
Body type: Toned
Smoker: No
Nicknamed: Doesn't deserve one.
My takeaway:
- Let's just put it this way. We had a little bit of character imbalances and we're at different stages in our lives.
- Nice guy nonetheless, something could have worked out if the element of "Focus" was in the picture. But it's cool... we're still friends. :)
After M2, my experience with match.com went downhill. The system doesn't serve up what you've placed in your requirements. E.g. You enter the age limit as 30 to 39. You still get matches of men who are in their 50s... I mean... Helloooooooooo
OK, nuff said about match.com and the dating escapades. I finally met my 'match' online but not through match.com but through one of the more common social networking sites, to which the bkgrd of how my profile got served up to him was rather awesome. I love the fact that we're so connected spiritually, mentally and emotionally. Difficult to find someone like that given my character... So far, he's been really sweet to me, and been really amazing.
In short, Lara's feeling blessed and happy with the match. And yes, it's like... FINALLY...
~ Lara ~
So what have i been up to these past 3 mths? Well pretty much work and then it went on to work and dating. Being in the tech industry, i'm pretty much open to anything tech-related. And well, yeah, that includes looking for Love online as well. Don't get me wrong, i said i am open to looking for love online but i am not actively searching.
That said, i got really curious about a certain dating site one day, "match.com" and decided to go try it out to see if this site actually works. I thought it would be fun since i was Single then and was into researching on social networking sites.
"OH, What the heck!" I thought to myself and typed my profile in and uploaded my pic... then it came to the part where i was prompted to sign up for a package. OK fine, less than S$30 per month (as opposed ot S$1K or more for the other prof dating agencies) and i thought it would be quite a neat investment if i'm blessed to find someone through match.
Cut the long story short, i've only met 2 from match.com.
Profile of M1
Industry: Financial Services
Age: Abt 9 yrs older than me
Height: Very tall
Looks: Could be better
Spoken: English with a hokkien beng accent
Body type: Avg
Smoker: Yes; about close to a pack a day
Nicknamed: "The Yelper"
My takeaway:
- Very weird. Told me he likes me after the 2nd date. And expects me to report my every move (GOSH!). Speaks very LOUD, quite embarrassing...
- Can't take the hint when i started to withdraw. Even 'scolded' me via sms that I should worry about myself than him.
- He actually 'broke up' with me when nothing's even started so that he can go see another girl he just met on the plane! OH GAWD!! Loser...
Profile of M2
Industry: Aviation (Commercial)
Age: Abt 2 yrs older than me
Height: Just right
Looks: Pretty good; Boyish
Spoken: English with malay accent
Body type: Toned
Smoker: No
Nicknamed: Doesn't deserve one.
My takeaway:
- Let's just put it this way. We had a little bit of character imbalances and we're at different stages in our lives.
- Nice guy nonetheless, something could have worked out if the element of "Focus" was in the picture. But it's cool... we're still friends. :)
After M2, my experience with match.com went downhill. The system doesn't serve up what you've placed in your requirements. E.g. You enter the age limit as 30 to 39. You still get matches of men who are in their 50s... I mean... Helloooooooooo
OK, nuff said about match.com and the dating escapades. I finally met my 'match' online but not through match.com but through one of the more common social networking sites, to which the bkgrd of how my profile got served up to him was rather awesome. I love the fact that we're so connected spiritually, mentally and emotionally. Difficult to find someone like that given my character... So far, he's been really sweet to me, and been really amazing.
In short, Lara's feeling blessed and happy with the match. And yes, it's like... FINALLY...
~ Lara ~
Friday 5 October 2007
From a Forwarded Email
The Problem
What am I doing wrong? Okay, I'm tired of beating around the bush. I'm a beautiful (spectacularly beautiful) 25 year old girl. I'm articulate and classy. I'm not from New York. I'm looking to get married to a guy who makes at least half a million a year. I know how that sounds, but keeping mind that a million a year is middle class in New York City, so I don't think I'm overreaching at all. Are there any guys who make 500K or more on this board? Any wives? Could you send me some tips? I dated a business man who makes average around 200 - 250.. But that's where I seem to hit a roadblock. 250,000 won't get me to central park west. I know a woman in my yoga class who was married to an investment banker and lives in Tribeca, and she's not as pretty as I am, nor is she a great genius. So what is she doing right? How do I get to her level?
Here are my questions specifically:
- Where do you single rich men hang out? Give me specifics- bars, restaurants, gyms
- What are you looking for in a mate? Be honest guys, you won't hurt my feelings
- Is there an age range I should be targeting (I'm 25)?
- Why are some of the women living lavish lifestyles on the upper east side so plain? I've seen really 'plain jane' boring types who have nothing to offer married to incredibly wealthy guys. I've seen drop dead gorgeous girls in singles bars in the east village. What's the story there? - Jobs I should look out for? Everyone knows - lawyer, investment banker, doctor. How much do those guys really make? And where do they hang out? Where do the hedge fund guys hang out?
- How you decide marriage vs. just a girlfriend? I am looking for MARRIAGE ONLY.
Please hold your insults - I'm putting myself out there in an honest way. Most beautiful women are superficial; at least I'm being upfront about it. I wouldn't be searching for these kind of guys if I wasn't able to match them - in looks, culture, sophistication, and keeping a nice home and hearth.
* It's NOT ok to contact this poster with services or other commercial interests*
The Answer
I read your posting with great interest and have thought meaningfully about your dilemma. I offer the following analysis of your predicament.
Firstly, I'm not wasting your time, I qualify as a guy who fits your bill; that is I make more than $500K per year. That said here's how I see it. Your offer, from the prospective of a guy like me, is plain and simple a cr@ppy business deal. Here's why. Cutting through all the B.S., what you suggest is a simple trade: you bring your looks to the party and I bring my money. Fine, simple. But here's the rub, your looks will fade and my money will likely continue into perpetuity...in fact, it is very likely that my income increases but it is an absolute certainty that you won't be getting any more beautiful! So, in economic terms you are a depreciating asset and I am an earning asset. Not only are you a depreciating asset, your depreciation accelerates! Let me explain, you're 25 now and will likely stay pretty hot for the next 5 years, but less so each year. Then the fade begins in earnest. By 35 stick a fork in you! So in Wall Street terms, we would call you a trading position, nota buy and hold...hence the rub...marriage. It doesn't make good business sense to "buy you" (which is what you're asking) so I'd rather lease. In case you think I'm being cruel, I would say the following. If my money were to go away, so would you, so when your beauty fades I need an out. It's as simple as that. So a deal that makes sense is dating, not marriage. Separately, I was taught early in my career about efficientmarkets. So, I wonder why a girl as "articulate, classy and spectacularly beautiful" as you has been unable to find your sugar daddy. I find it hard to believe that if you are as gorgeous as you say you are that the$500K hasn't found you, if not only for a tryout. By the way, you could always find a way to make your own money and then we wouldn't need to have this difficult conversation. With all that said, I must say you're going about it the rightway. Classic "pump and dump." I hope this is helpful, and if you want to enter into some sort of lease, let me know.
~SeamonkeY~
Tuesday 2 October 2007
Simply BAD attitude
Finally, something blog-worthy...
Scene
Heartland Mall
Lead Actress
2 salesgirls
Moi aka me
Script
M: how much is this black necklace?
SG1: $10
M held it in my hands and walked around for half a min. Decide I'd put it back and walk around the mall to see if I can get anything else instead. 10 mins later, I decided I'd go back to the set-up (it's not even a store) to get that necklace.
Went back and picked up 2 necklaces. A red and a black one.
M: How much is this? (shows SG2 the red necklace)
SG2: $10
M did some simple calculations and said
M: So 2 for $20?
SG2: No... the black one is $19.90
M wonders... did I hear wrongly the first time round. Turned to SG 1 who was just beside me and said
M: Just now you told me it was $10?
THIS IS THE HIGHLIGHT
SG1: Just now I tell you $10 you don't want, now it's $19.90
WHAT THE HECK WAS THAT?
I just said forget it and walked off and I could hear SG1 telling SG 2 in a ya-ya-papaya tone "just now tell her $10 don't want, now $19.90....."
What? prices go up in a matter of 10 mins? Am I missing out on a red-dot 10-min sale? Freaking attitude!!! If she was on msn with me, I would have slapped her face big time... hmph!
ribena - "shop-abused"
Scene
Heartland Mall
Lead Actress
2 salesgirls
Moi aka me
Script
M: how much is this black necklace?
SG1: $10
M held it in my hands and walked around for half a min. Decide I'd put it back and walk around the mall to see if I can get anything else instead. 10 mins later, I decided I'd go back to the set-up (it's not even a store) to get that necklace.
Went back and picked up 2 necklaces. A red and a black one.
M: How much is this? (shows SG2 the red necklace)
SG2: $10
M did some simple calculations and said
M: So 2 for $20?
SG2: No... the black one is $19.90
M wonders... did I hear wrongly the first time round. Turned to SG 1 who was just beside me and said
M: Just now you told me it was $10?
THIS IS THE HIGHLIGHT
SG1: Just now I tell you $10 you don't want, now it's $19.90
WHAT THE HECK WAS THAT?
I just said forget it and walked off and I could hear SG1 telling SG 2 in a ya-ya-papaya tone "just now tell her $10 don't want, now $19.90....."
What? prices go up in a matter of 10 mins? Am I missing out on a red-dot 10-min sale? Freaking attitude!!! If she was on msn with me, I would have slapped her face big time... hmph!
ribena - "shop-abused"
Monday 1 October 2007
The power of forums
Forums are what merchants fear most and like most. Companies with fantastic products and fantastic service have everything to gain. Companies who fall on the other end of the spectrum have everything to lose!
I have never put forums into my decision making process, seriously. While many net users are already adding into forums, doing facebooks, I am still pretty much contented with Internet banking, blogging and my yahoo photos.
Kp's been quite a +ve influence on the way I do things at times. He is one big forum fan when it comes to his remote control car. He's someone who googles more than I whine =p
I was hunting for furniture, and little did I realise the guy whom my bro bought his furniture from, was so +vely recommended on forums. His furn is sold to retail stores in town, that basically meant I will get the best price and the same quality from him. He got my deal.
Food adventure trail 1.2 - forum was raving about Dian Xiao Er, their famous roasted duck with ginseng gravy. I swear we both licked-clean that plate....making sure not a single ounce of ginseng gravy was leftover.
#1 salon @ Bishan, they do great eyebrow embroidery. The brow specialist is Amy, she's got superbly steady hands, very friendly and she is really much better than the expensive Jean Yip. What I pay Jean Yip, I paid her half but got many times better. Forum recommended her as one of the best eyebrow place with fully packed schedules, celebrities and stewardess visiting her place. I love my brows now!
I simply love them!
~6th Sense
I have never put forums into my decision making process, seriously. While many net users are already adding into forums, doing facebooks, I am still pretty much contented with Internet banking, blogging and my yahoo photos.
Kp's been quite a +ve influence on the way I do things at times. He is one big forum fan when it comes to his remote control car. He's someone who googles more than I whine =p
I was hunting for furniture, and little did I realise the guy whom my bro bought his furniture from, was so +vely recommended on forums. His furn is sold to retail stores in town, that basically meant I will get the best price and the same quality from him. He got my deal.
Food adventure trail 1.2 - forum was raving about Dian Xiao Er, their famous roasted duck with ginseng gravy. I swear we both licked-clean that plate....making sure not a single ounce of ginseng gravy was leftover.
#1 salon @ Bishan, they do great eyebrow embroidery. The brow specialist is Amy, she's got superbly steady hands, very friendly and she is really much better than the expensive Jean Yip. What I pay Jean Yip, I paid her half but got many times better. Forum recommended her as one of the best eyebrow place with fully packed schedules, celebrities and stewardess visiting her place. I love my brows now!
I simply love them!
~6th Sense
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